Being alive alone is stressful.
Stress is an aspect of daily living, so a level of stress is expected and quite normal.
Most often stress is caused by anxiety brought on by undue pressure. Makes those most prone to stress those who are natural worryers and those who do lots of multitasking. That is why women account for the highest ratio when it comes to stressed individuals.
A lot of people have equated hardwork to stress so much that most bosses dont see it as a problem. For them, it just simply is a sign that their subordinates are working.
However, when stress becomes a cause for worry is when it begins to affect your lifestyle negatively.
You no longer find joy in the little things that used to enthrall you. You find that your eating pattern has changed drastically – you either eat too much or too little. You are drinking more. You are sleeping less. Or more. You are constantly fatigued. You have a constant feeling of exasperation and frustration. Your productivity goes down. You begin to notice fluctuations in your weight. I could go on and on.
Do you currently identify with these indicators? Then you most probably are stressed.
So what do you do? What did you do?
I will talk about how you can fight stress in subsequent posts.
May Wellness Fall on You!
As a public speaker and teacher, I know how easy it is to fall into the trap of being too verbose. Most times, this comes from a place of nervousness and anxiety.
I love speaking, I love teaching. I have hosted a TV show and I currently host my second radio show. I have hosted small and big events. I am very comfortable in front of the camera and in front of a group of people. Small and large. However, I will tell you this for free.
Everytime, right before I am to face the camera or people, I get butterflies in my tummy. You know that queasy feeling? Where you are scared you will forget your well rehearsed intro or you will end up tripping on stage or your audience will be very unfriendly? Yeah, that feeling.
Then you get on stage and you allow the anxiety to take over you. Then stage fright sets in. To cover up one of two things always happens. Either you clam up or you talk too fast and too much. And it is mostly the latter.
The problem with talking too much, is you easily lose focus and start to misyarn. Which is always detected by your audience. They begin to wonder what you are on about. You easily lose them and the event is already dead on arrival.
So, I am going to give you a few tips of mine.
- First of all, recognise that everyone has the queasy feeling. Even the ones you admire in the business. This will calm you down and assure you you are not alone. If they can do it, why not you? Right?
- Know that at that moment, everyone waiting to hear from you is there because they believe in you and trust your ability to deliver. Which even though is some form of pressure, it ought to boost your confidence a little.
- Remember who you are. Try to stay true to that. Which is what you were contracted for in the first place
- Remember the nature of the event and always have in front of you the nature of guests or audience
- Set your sights above the sea of heads, to avoid a discouraging look that could flounder your confidence. Or pick a random smiling and encouraging face (there is always one or two) and keep coming back to that face
- Note down your points. You dont have to be a comedian. You just need to deliver the message. Dont pressure yourself to be funny. Be natural. Be detailed. Be engaging. Be a teacher
- If you are done, you are done. Simple. You do not need to fill up the extra time with more words. Except you are an event host, then you can always involve your audience in a “Q and A” or some interactive exercises as time fillers. This always works magic. And gives you extra points too. So, you are not just an event host, but you are also a moderator and you know how to work a crowd. Good value for money.
What are those things you find work for you to quell that queasy feeling? Do share.